For Parents: Your Daughter’s Journey

Puberty can be a challenging and confusing time for teens and their parents. From ages 8-13 many girls begin puberty. One of the first signs that your little girl is growing up is breast development.

While some girls are excited about their new breasts and training bras, others may not like the changes and feel self-conscious about their new bodies. Be ready to talk to your daughter about her breasts and help her get started on her own journey.

Start the conversation sooner rather than later.

By the time a girl is eight years old, she should know what bodily changes are associated with puberty. That may seem young, but consider this: some early bloomers are already wearing training bras at that age.

Be honest and open with her.

Let her know you won’t laugh at her or judge her no matter what she asks you. Remind her that you are there for her whenever she needs you. And don’t hesitate to initiate the conversation if you think she’s ready.

Get personal.

Tell her about the time you got your first training bra. Share how you felt when you started developing breasts and going through all of the new changes that she is now experiencing.

Make it practical.

Most girls are interested in how to find a bra that fits. Your daughter will appreciate your help and experience, such as taking a measurement for a bra.

Offer reassurance.

If your daughter starts developing earlier than her friends, she may feel self-conscious about her changing appearance. Or, if she develops slower than her friends, she may struggle as well. Assure her that puberty happens to everyone, but just not at the same pace.

Talk about breast self-exams.

Although breast cancer in teens is extremely rare, it’s a good idea for girls to learn how to perform a breast self-examination (BSE) so they can better understand how their bodies feel normally. After learning what is normal for them, teens can then recognize changes in their breasts. If your daughter notices any changes or has any questions, she should talk to her doctor.